Illidin, sounds like you got a decent IC. I would probably discuss the Divorce Busting approach to him so that he can help you along with that. Most IC's see pressure and pursuit, or reconnection, as the way to save a marriage. As we've told you, that is really not the way to work. This is why MC has such a low rate of success.

I think your IC isn't really trying to get you to see it is useless as much as trying to prepare you for the worst. We have a saying around here: Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. The LBSs that struggle the worst are the ones that cannot fathom a future where they are not with their WAS. It really is an unhealthy way to live. Think about it, we live in a world where you could lose your spouse to death through disease or accident, at any moment. If your entire happiness is wrapped up in one person, even in your spouse, that is unhealthy and dangerous. So more than likely your IC is tyring to get you differentiated to a degree what if your W follows through on what she has stated, which is very likely, so that you can be happy on the other side. And believe it or not, you will be.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018