Just wanted to come back with a quick update. This quarantine with multiple kids is hard. My wife still works 12 hour days outside of the house, and I'm home with the kids trying to work full time and manage them and school work for the vast majority of the day. When she comes home, she's somewhat helpful in getting things done for the evening (dinner, baths, etc) and then everyone goes to bed. The days are HARD. I'm constantly trying to navigate things with the kids while being on video calls and trying to get actual work done, which can be very frustrating for people with two adults in the home let alone one for most of the day. She's working hard too, but it's different than trying to manage all of these things at once inside the house.
At this point, I've still maintained a positive outlook, have prioritized myself where I can (exercising regularly and staying in touch with friends is mostly it right now), and haven't said anything to her about how tough it is because I don't want to seem needy and want to still give her the space that she needs. Our interactions continue to be cordial, but man part of me just wants to let my frustration show through at the fact that in what is probably the most challenging time in the world from an external perspective that's happened since we've been married, I not only don't have a partner but also am bearing essentially the full weight of taking care of the kids during this time too.
I recognize that there are many people going through much bigger challenges right now - food and job insecurity, health, etc. - but it feels like the rug being pulled out from under me at this exact moment just serves to exacerbate the challenge of a WAW.
At any rate, I'm continuing to work on me, finding happiness in the time I get to spend with my kids, and continuing to wait it out....
