This was the trigger... this made her recall that he also molested her when they were kids. So it set off all sorts of trauma that she was not equipped to deal with but had been going to therapy over the past 2 years and dealing with all this along with the miscarriage that we had which she really struggled with.
I am wondering if you would consider reconciliation. You might have said that already but during quarantine, no activity can go on without a child coming in every second to tell you to replace her unicorn string lights so I have to come and go and come go while doing ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING. Once done with the string lights, the S14 (also almost 6 feet) will demand his third dinner of the evening and wonder why there is nothing in the fridge and say, aghast that I can't go grocery shopping right now, "It's not like you have anything you have to do."
Granted, DB boards are not something I HAVE to do.
BACK TO WORK, LAZY GERDA!
I have talked about this a few times over the past 3 months since my last relationship ended with friends who have asked ... "Cali would you take back Exw or ExGf??" As much as I would like to say I have healed and moved on from Exw I have acknowledged that there will always be a part of me who loves her, the one who had not entered into MLC. That said I also know deep down a reconciliation would force me to open up alot of old boxes that I had to seal up and ship off to GoodWill, I just do not feel it would be healthy for me to have to deal with all that stuff again. I am not afraid of entering into a relationship and now know I still have some things/issues to work through but if I had to work through all the old stuff with Exw I know I would lose alot of the work I have done to this point ... in a way I just feel it would be moving to far backward and I just do not want to entertain that kind of work. Her and I are in a good place now, but even before all this happened it was not all that I know I can have in a relationship.
