There's a gap between what Steve's proposing and what you're proposing.
Originally Posted by Steve85
"I am not lifting the order on advice from my attorney. And will not discuss it further."
Originally Posted by KitCat
my atty does not advise I do such as he is asking. I was going to suggest that the attys just handle it going forward unless he feels that there may be other options and letting the attys go for now.
I only point this out because you viewed these messages as the same.
Steve's message conveys "No" and ends this negative interaction. Your message conveys "My attorney suggested X" and suggests what he do next [unwanted advice - control?]. I get firmness is hard and maybe you aren't ready to say no. By simply telling him you'd gotten advice to do otherwise you invite continued discussion on this matter. Letting go of one of your last recurring interactions can't be easy.
I 100% see your point. This will not be my last interaction with him... honestly I don't want this interaction at all.
I agree I am not being firm but not for the reasons I think you outline.
My reasons 1) I know deep down that I'm still trying to please him, 2) I don't want to disappoint him, 3) I don't want him to feel that I'm controlling the situation.
^^^ I totally get that all of those focus on HIM. That is why I've been wanting to avoid this topic with him 100%. Its my achille's heel for absolute sure.
I also know my suggesting if we could just drop both attys and just take time apart for awhile is trying to instigate an R talk on where we are at?, also definitely showing I'm plan B? and maybe control? IDK about the last one. But, I 100% know that is a lame thing to say and to not even go there!!!
