This was the trigger... this made her recall that he also molested her when they were kids. So it set off all sorts of trauma that she was not equipped to deal with but had been going to therapy over the past 2 years and dealing with all this along with the miscarriage that we had which she really struggled with.
I have a good friend in my city whose W hit MLC right when my H did. I remember they had the same eyes at the same time. And both of them had a sexual molestation trauma as young teens.
It seems so common on these threads that I am starting to wonder why in tarnation there is no well-funded psych study out there of the impact of child/teen sexual abuse on midlife mental health. I wonder how many of you who are reading this have an MLCer with a sexually-based trauma in his/her past....
Loved reading your post-story story, Cali -- I used to read your stuff in my first go-round here back in the day, before I took a hiatus,then returned,endless cycle. I'm on year seven but my H only gets worse and worse. Irish aside, you seem like a pretty awesome specimen to moi.
I am wondering if you would consider reconciliation. You might have said that already but during quarantine, no activity can go on without a child coming in every second to tell you to replace her unicorn string lights so I have to come and go and come go while doing ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING. Once done with the string lights, the S14 (also almost 6 feet) will demand his third dinner of the evening and wonder why there is nothing in the fridge and say, aghast that I can't go grocery shopping right now, "It's not like you have anything you have to do."
Granted, DB boards are not something I HAVE to do.
BACK TO WORK, LAZY GERDA!
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