Scout - if you haven't read Ginger's threads in the Surviving the Big D section, you should. Her husband started his affair with the OW while Ginger was pregnant after fertility treatments! He left her with an infant and married the OW. Her daughter is a young teen (preteen?) now and G has managed all these years to have a civil relationship with her ex and his wife for the sake of her daughter. She still hates it but she bucked up and put her daughter first (I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have had the intestinal fortitude to do so, but I'm impressed that she did.) If you want a peek at what that good outcome might look like check her thread.
