Hey Cali - good to see your head pop up over the parapet.
It sounds like you are navigating the waters that swirl you around with your head up.
It's interesting that your ex went to counseling for abused women. My own ex was sexually abused as a kid by an uncle in her case. Thinking back, it might have been "his" death that sent her off on her own journey to pixie dust fairy land. It does re-inforce the idea that any sort of serious trauma can jump up and bite you if you don't face it.
I think that a lot of us imagine that what caused everything to blow up involved us but are completely wrong.
Take care old friend.
TBH I think I spent to much time in my own head about what triggered MLC ... truth be told and looking back it really had no meaning other than the fact I wanted to somehow crack the MLC code and figure it out in hopes I could have somehow cure it. But knowing what really set it off in a way helps me understand it a bit but the real satisfaction is seeing her come out of it even if its almost 10 years since she was triggered.
I told a friend the other day I am at a point I really do hope she finds someone someday, and I NEVER thouhgt I would be saying that ... like ever ... like ever ever.
