I cannot mute his stuff without everyones stuff being muted so not overly helpful.
I have been absolutely great in that I have not responded with emotion in over 3 weeks? maybe 4? That I'm proud of for sure!!!
I don't respond immediately. I'm cordial as if talking to a neighbor. I do not ask anything of him - unless he volunteers. He readily asked me about my plans for the weekend - I was vague "hike with friend and dogs" He then said "oh, ok", then "I have a motorcycle event but it will probably be cancelled due to weather/covid". He has only been sharing tid bits in the last 3 weeks minimally but it is more than before.
I was wrong to break down and text Saturday about his event. That was weakness on my my part and honestly stunned I got an immediate response so late at night. But, I have learned that he is more open late at night. He frequently sends texts after 11pm. Today I got one at 12:30am. I wonder if its during these times he has more time to let him mind wander - he can block out things during the day but at night stews?
Oh who knows and its not healthy for me to go down the path of assumptions.
I am tired of the text media. I said he should call about working out getting more stuff this weekend. I think I can handle calls now. I'm stronger. I can stay focused and I'm good as gold when it comes to being the first to end the convo --- I'm a pro at it now! I'm an expert about only talking about business stuff. I NEVER ASK WHERE HE IS AT WITH THE R. I won't lie --- love to say can we just skip the atty's and drop this for now??? Just trying to see if he is going after this with the same gusto of 6 weeks ago... Let's just rip off the bandaid and move on?
Its all pointless. I'm my own barricade right now. I need to focus on getting his stuff and having absolutely no reason for him to contact... and then if he does... maybe he isn't done just yet.
