Divorce and Acceptance part 5

[Rita]

Own, now that I am my own lawyer, in communication with H's lawyer, I correct lies and fully explain financial issues, etc. This has moved some things slightly in my direction -- e.g., in phone conference with court (courts are closed) when his L tried to get something absurd to happen -- and also has allowed a paper trail I didn't have before, of a very clear history of offers and clear explanations of financial issues and children's needs. I usually write something way too long and then wait a couple days and slash and burn to make it as short and unemotional as possible. But it's still quite detailed. I am also trying to make it very clear how pointless it will be to go to trial since there is nothing to uncover or catch me in. The idea of trial is based on H's delusions, not the reality of bank accounts and living breathing children.

So I wonder if you can clarify your legal tip there-- are you just talking about in court? My lawyers tended to say almost nothing in reply to communications as a strategy but it really only allowed 18 months of lie building by H and his monster-on-a-chain lawyer, which deeply influenced the court, and for my kids' needs to drift off any radar.