Perhaps I will proceed in faith instead of caution. Seems a better way to live.
I agree!
Originally Posted by Grace21
WARNING! PROCEED WITH CAUTION!
A phrase the pops into my brain with a bit of frequency of late.
Perhaps see caution as being careful and not the timidity side of it. Overly cautious sounds rather fearful, and not where I think you are.
Proceed with careful faith.
I have faith that cars will stop. However, I still look both ways before just stepping out into the street.
Faith isn’t blind. The idea of blind faith, is misused and invalid. All of us have a reason, many reasons, to believe. Blind faith suggests believing without reason.
Faith is a belief that has taken hold so strongly within you that it alters your actions and behaviours. Many many people are people of faith and do not realize it. Faith is usually reserved for speaking about religion and God, but belief is belief, and faith can extend to anything and anyone.
Faith, beliefs, trust - all tie together, and none are blind.
Live with faith and caution.
The eyes wide open kind of caution. The fearless kind.
Since I’m apparently standing on my soapbox:
That kind of faith is the kind that moves mountains. It can simultaneously and paradoxically throw caution to the wind and yet is not reckless.
The belief in goodness and light is such a beacon, becomes such a force.
Forgiveness is one of the things that requires such a faith.
From my journey and my own efforts: It appears almost reckless how one has to offer their broken and hurting heart and soul upon the alter of forgiveness. It again appears reckless and blind, taking this action without the other person even deserving it. One has to risk so much of themselves, open themselves up to so much possible pain and hurt - so not true.
Forgiveness is a requisite for peace and acceptance. Forgiveness is for you.
This forgiveness and faith is based on compassion and understanding. Realizing and working towards one’s peaceful gentle life is a long view of things. That view is careful and cautious with our precious heart and soul. It is best to face life free and happy , not bitter, resentful, and trapped.
That is not a reckless path. It is a path of fulfillment, enlightenment, and such a faith. It will so moves your mountain. And you will be changed!
That’s a faith worth living for.
That’s a faith worth forgiving for.
For what it’s worth, H is cautiously extending his belief and faith in you. Sharing his feelings and things that could be used against him is something he is quite fearful of. It is nice to see his progress. Where it goes, time will tell.
H is still living with OW. Eating cake. You are correct, do not invest your time worrying or thinking about it. By the way you are not worrying about it, you’re worrying about when it will stop - as in why hasn’t it yet. Watch out for the hidden expectations.
Worry and fear are for things not yet happening. We don’t worry about something that is currently happening. We worry about what might happen, or not.
It is hard enough to let go of fear and worry when seeing them accurately. It becomes almost impossible when we work on the incorrect trigger and event. Hopeful that helps.
Originally Posted by Grace21
I found myself telling God out loud during that podcast that I want my marriage to be repaired. I asked God to give H the tools and endurance needed to make that happen, asked God to intervene and help H repair his relationship with the kids, and especially D20. I think this is the first time I really acknowledged that.
I am glad you acknowledged all that.
God does act, does intervene, through those who allow Him.
You control you. Let God shine through you. Have a faith and forgiveness that moves and changes you. That light garbs you, and cloaks you in His loving embrace.
H will see you and your brilliance. It is up to H if he changes.
I believe he is working on it.
I believe God is as well.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
