Made it a year - part 2

[Dawn70]

I have said to you before that everyone has to work through things on their own timeline but again I see kml is giving SPOT ON advice. G did as well. You say you aren’t interested in men right now and I totally get it. When I was going through D and even after it was final, George Strait himself could’ve shown up at my door in those yummy tight starched Wranglers and that perfectly shaped cowboy hat and I would not have let him in. I just had NO desire to have anything whatsoever to do with men. I used that time to work on myself. I went to counseling, spent more time with friends, found my love for reading again (I had set it aside because hubs was jealous when I would get lost in a book), worked on all sorts of craft projects and cooked a lot and would then take what I cooked to work to share with everyone since I lived alone and didn’t want to eat it all myself.

Then, one day, nearly a year later (11 months to be exact, almost to the day), it was like a switch flipped inside me and I felt ready to date, have sex, etc. If King George had shown up that day he’d most certainly have gotten quite the go.

You are on your own timeline but I tell you all that to say that you have to heal yourself, learn to love yourself, and be happy with yourself before you can stand strong in a new relationship. There is nothing wrong with taking the time to work on yourself, focus on your kids, and just act like men don’t exist for awhile, outside of family, co-workers, and friends.