H will get pissed for having to follow up and ask again (will see me as dragging it out).. Go dark and piss him off and face the wrath and punishment or comply to keep the volcano from erupting and save myself from more pain and difficulty? I would avoid standing up for myself or speaking up about what I wanted because I wanted to avoid a fight.
Picture an angry boss screaming at you. Now pictures he fired you. You're at home, enjoying your day, and he wants work done. He calls to yell, to plead, to tell you nice things (but not to rehire you). Do you do his work? Of course not! Standing up for yourself is a great idea and helps rebuild your respect.
It'll be tempting to respond. Your brain will try to come up with reasons to. Try turning off your alerts. Try delaying a day. Show your reply here or to an IC first. That's how I built upto NC for 3 months.
You may want to retain an attorney a.s.a.p. to tell you how to protect yourself and defang any threats he makes and tell you what you really should respond to (which is usually minimal).
