So, how do you go about validating while discussing things that you have to move forward on? Things like divorce issues. There's obviously going to be a lot of disagreement, or at least the potential for it.
After she says how she feels about something, where I don't want to do things her way, say something like, "So, you feel that <something> so you'd like for <something else>. I can see why you would feel that way. Would you like to hear how I look at the situation (or, maybe - These are my thoughts on the matter...)?"
