Illidin, You hang in there. This is going to be quite a ride. Read Sandis 37 rules. And when you’re done read them again. I find myself reading them everyday. I use the website as a journal and it’s been wonderful to be able too. There’s so much valuable information in the welcome letter besides the rules too. Also, personally I like to read others peoples situations to see the successful reunions and the people who are genuinely ok when there isn’t a reunion. It’s empowering.
Remember you’re human and you’re going to make mistakes, we all do. (I continue too). Remember this is all about working on ourselves. Becoming a better/best version of ourselves we can be. We also need to be happy with ourselves and be ok with being alone or moving on. That really is the goal.
The idea behind this imo, and I’m newer to this too, is once we become happy and content and confident our spouses will be attracted to us the way they once were, or at least intrigued. By than you may not want them back. Now remember this is all a big if with no guarantees. But if you work on yourself and you can be happy by yourself it won’t matter nearly as much if they don’t return.
Please continue to post and welcome to the forums.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11
