Yes Yes Yes! I will never understand why I was so complacent. I got angry, I fought, I tried to rationalize - forever. But I wasn’t the one to leave.
My M was toxic. H would subconsciously push my buttons I'd get angry, got labeled as "crazy" then he walked away thinking the problem was resolved. It's all my fault and that's the end of that conversation. Over many years he got older, grew more unhappy, the new cars weren't enough anymore and he needed a bigger fix so he sought out OW and left.
