Simply put. Its going to seem impossible, but 180 on your non-social and/or controlling habits. Don't tell her anything about what she should do. Controlling. You are probably way more attached and dependent on her than you realize and it will be hard, but go out and work on yourself (when we can again). Read, workout, get out, keep busy and think about how to improve yourself. This has built up over many years and will take a lot of letting go and changing. That hardest part is realizing you need to work on yourself while she figures herself out.
You can do it...read up around here.
Either way, you and possibly your relationship will be better/stronger. Remember that.
