Wow this advice from May, FANTASTIC!
You out it so simple but yet so strong! Should be mandatory for all newcomers.

Also wanted to second the thought on "exploring" your options.
IT really helped me to understand more about the D process and to scan the market for other living arrangements. I could bare the thought of not living in the house until I found something else that would actually be great for me and the girls.

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021