I know that is exactly what I need to do... have been trying to keep things amicable because of course my goal is recon...
I'm going to sleep on it tonight. I'm exhausted from doing all his paperwork - the affidavit, the other documents... we've had two move out dates so far which I am helping him with... IT'S LIKE I'M DOING ALL THE LEG WORK FOR MY H TO LEAVE ME.
Just exhausted. I need a mental break.
Exactly! If this is all stuff he wants, quit doing it for him. It seems like you're coming from a place of wanting to nice him back. It's not rude/mean to make a grown man do his own work - no is a complete sentence. I think a lot of the advice you've been given is to quit exhausting yourself with H in whatever capacity (legally, logistically, emotionally) and use your resources. Having an attorney handle something doesn't mean recon is off the table forever - it just means you are putting yourself in a better place to work on yourself.
