I totally agree w/DnJ...leave your h to his own mess. It's not your job to establish communications once he's gone. He's a grown man and if he wants to make a stab at communicating while he's gone, he'll do it. Otherwise, you and your D3 enjoy yourselves and make a new life when he's out of the house. Only contact him if it is an emergency. Remember...he fired you as his wife and you are not his mother, i.e., to make things better for him.

Keep the focus on you and your D3. Once he's out of there, the heavy weight will lift off your shoulders and you can actually breathe again.

Stay safe.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.