BTW - change up your hair, makeup, attire, exercise, healthy diet - the better you feel about yourself, the less time you'll spend comparing yourself to this nothing of a girl. YOU are a strong and equal partner. You are competent and independent. YOU are capable and adventurous (ok, maybe not adventurous on your own, but this experience has a way of making us fearless. It sure kicked ME out of my comfortable rut.)
Have you made that vision board yet? If not, make it a weekend project. Posterboard and magazine pictures of things you'd like to have in your adventurous future.
SEVERAL years before my marriage blew up, I was reading a self-help book and one exercise in it was to make a list of 100 things you'd like to do or achieve in your life. 100 - precisely because it's hard to come up with 100 things so you really have to just throw stuff out there.
A few years after my divorce, I found that old scrap of paper with my list on it. I TOTALLY do not remember writing this at the time, but there on the list, maybe number 60, was "play in a band". Well, lo and behold, I had learned to play the drums after my divorce and at that very time I had been playing for a few years in a amateur pop-punk cover band! And I don't EVEN remember that having been a conscious idea in my head before my divorce! So the power of putting things down and them coming true - it's greater than you think!
