Usually they reconnect with the kids first... What is his current relationship with the kids? His old friends? His family?
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I would continue to do as you are leaning way back...focusing your energy on your future plans with or without him and right now it is without him no expectations
Keeping yourself safe..relationships with kids, family and friends You can respond and be cordial dont initiate
he may just want a friendship since you are being so kind to him he may be thinking friends?
IDK -- but I would be careful they want to keep us hooked even with no intention of returning
Only time will tell..they also have touch and goes where they seem normal..then back to MLC land also the crises may have affected him to want to clear things with you and this can be the only way he knows
If he is serious it will take time to really see his motives truthfully rarely do we see a spouse return ,but it does happen
read Westos thread and Gordies...they had returning spouses
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