She told me more of the A today. Basically, he was good and "adventurous" in bed. She wants to be here with me and wants to bring that "adventure" into our lives.
Eww. I offered and my GF requested zero details about who I dated while we were separated.
Originally Posted by kto626
That's definitely a gut shot to me to take but her willingness to communicate that speaks a lot to me.
As MrBrside points out, this wasn't why she cheated--she discovered this *after* crossing the line. Beware of a dynamic where WW points out real or perceived ways OM is better (as most humans will be in some ways) and you try to compete with him in those area--maybe sex, barbecue, and home maintenance.
Originally Posted by kto626
She told me she's afraid that I will be angry with her forever. I told her it will take time but her willingness to be transparent and communicate will help that process for me and her. I think she is an insecure person and that needs to be worked on for us to have a chance. I also know I want her home.
Well, if you were not giving her "Home" immediately you could break this into phases of 1-2 weeks (no contact) to encourage her with carrots: Phase 1: Dating, Phase 2: Sex, Phase 3: Overnights, Phase 4: Home. Let's go with your plane of Home now. What if she contacts OM1 again in an "innocent" way, stops or delays IC, or stops allowing you to access her all her devices, etc. What sticks could you apply? What if you tell her to move out and she refuses this time? It may be worth thinking through those boundaries and articulating them before move-in. Again, this seems rushed, but I'm just thinking through how you might make your plan as successful as possible assuming you actually have a good read on where she is.
