Well, she was not all that agreeable. I could tell she's been in a bad mood since Thursday. She wanted to know why I felt entitled to more than what she was offering (reimbursement for what I paid for home improvements). I explained about being in a difficult position as someone who be leaving the home (at some point) and about my preference for living in another area (we live close to another state, where my family and most of my friends live), where my money would go much farther on a house, but I was going to be pretty much stuck in this area (unless I want a nightmare commute with our daughter) with a higher financial burden.
She also complained about the request that she pay the settlement within 120 days. She was expecting to pay in monthly installments of $1,000 (though, she said some months would be more, and some less). She said she couldn't make a payment like that in 4 months. She said she didn't have any money. I asked about her retirement accounts, and she said I have more. I asked if she was sure, and she mentioned the ROTH IRA, and I asked about her 401Ks. She said she had one through work, but didn't know how much was in it, and that she didn't get statements. I told her about the statement I found in our taxes from 2 years ago, and the math I did based off her paycheck, and that I could have asked for more. She again asked why I felt entitled to it, and that she should keep what she earned, and I should keep what I earned. I told her, I could understand why she'd think that, but let her know that I'm not the one doing this. I told her she could offer me <a sum much larger than I was asking>, and I'd rather take the option where we are not doing this at all.
Later, she had me watch as she signed into her company account, and she checked her retirement. It currently has a balance that's more than I figured up before. After that, she said, "If you want <amount I asked for>, you can have it, but I can't do it in one payment like that."
She also said she'd be deducting rent, if I ended up staying. Which is fair, but this is the first time she's mentioned it, and I'm guessing the real reason she proposed I stay in the house.
She wanted me to tell her if that's what I wanted right then, and she'd propose that tomorrow. I told her I wanted to think about it, and she pressed on that, asking what I needed to think about. I simply said all of it. This is one thing about her I have always had a problem with. She expects everyone to make a decision on everything right away. She gets upset when people want to think about things before making a decision. Doesn't matter how large of a decision.
