LITB ~ You are right about that dynamic. It's so ingrained now that I think it won't change overnight.
I am completely fed up and yet trying to remain polite and business-like, not letting my emotions shine through. I made a proposal a few days ago that would get us to 50/50 by fall and avoid court, while leaving room to mediate on other issues, and my W's response was to plead to the mediator about how hard her life is right now. The mediator seems annoyed that I made an offer outside mediation but so be it.
W wants to revisit custody down the road, ramp up work really slowly, and claims this is all best for the kids, we are away from friends and family, this is so devastating, etc etc etc. I hear these things and sometimes want to pull my hair out: "You wanted this divorce! What did you expect?!"
I know it's standard WAS script. The more I hear it, the more it helps me detach from the craziness.
