I'm finally sticking up for myself a little. I'm sick of tip toeing around him, being nice, going out of my way in my own house for this man who cheated on me, We signed our D papers! YOU didn't complete them! You've left us!, your back & wish you we're in fantasy land with ow. You're planning things with her..ugh..I hope it all blows up in his face.
Wow..I really vented there.
Good. Vent. Here.
Yes, stick up for yourself. Tip toeing around the eggshells is tiring. Now, I’m not saying go and jump all over them either. Return your focus to you and D3.
”going out of my way in my own house for this man who cheated on me” - No need to go too far out of your way in your own house. Focus on you and do your own thing. You appear to be focusing a bit much upon H, pretty understandable when living under the same roof.
When H needs space, he has the garage. He used to hide out in there, and has being expanding his territory. It’s ok to,push back, not in a directly a confrontational way, just you and D3 living. You focus on you and leave it as a choice for H. If He doesn’t want to be around you and/or D3, needs his privacy, then he can choose to go to the garage. (Like a boundary isn’t it)
Like teenagers and their rooms. They do not want to around us in the living room, and I’m not going to go sit on my bed so they can have the family room to themselves. They can choose to remain or go to their room and be sullen by themselves all they want. Oh that tough love.
Grace is right about justifying.
Justifying to H is just going to be viewed as manipulative. Trying to explain things to an irrational, unlistening person, is rather pointless.
Yeah, muttering under your breath was a lower point than you’d like. Oh well, it happens, you are under stress as well. Having D3 repeat it is funny, sorry Can, it’s not what you want to happen. Ah, out the mouths of babes. There isn’t a much better mirror than that of a listening child.
Don’t worry, it’s not a big deal. Be gentle on yourself. It is good for H to get a bit of a push back once is a while too.
Let this go. You’ve apologized. Keep moving forward.
More focus on you, requires less justifications and explanations. You are just doing your thing in your house. Leaving H to choose his path. Join in or not.
Have a great day my dear.
It’s suppose to be plus 12 here today. Going to have a fire, and with sticks and outstretched arms, cook smokies and hotdogs over the dancing yellow/orange flames.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
