Can. I'm sorry about your situation. It seems to be a very difficult place to be. MLCrs have volatile emotions. They lash out and want to blame, then play nice out of guilt. Seems to me that muttering under your breathe he can go elsewhere would be something your could politely say directly to him. "I'm sorry you are uncomfortable here. You are free to stay elsewhere if you want to."
Originally Posted by CanBird
He accused me of following him around. I explained/justified my movements.
You should never have to justify your actions in your own home. It puts you on the defensive, and looks like you are taking blame for a situation where you are blameless.
Stay strong!
Grace
Hi Grace, and thank you for your reply. I do like how you worded telling 00 to stay elsewhere. I don't really care he heard it, but still felt bad. (I'm such a people pleaser).
In reality, I'm okay with H staying here, when it's calm! (Of course, him talking to ow in the middle of the night urks me, it's not a secret. But we dont talk about it. He goes into the garage. Same time, every night....barf..) On the positive, it's nice for D3 to have him around & at times nice for me too, when I get a break.
I have mentioned him staying at this friends previously; pre-CoVid. Since he'd already been here, and has helped us prepare for surviving this, and we get by most days, for D3, I did't insist he stay elsewhere. His time here is almost up. Seasonal essential work should be starting soon. Looking forward to that new chapter.
Grace, you are 100% right that I should not have to justify my actions in my own home. Especially durings these crazy times. Almost there... so close to being H free.
~Never Give Up ~ 2019 Mar BD June BD Dec Aow/xgf 2020 Jan he wants D Feb he flys2 ow Mar returns stuck here C19 Lckdwn Apr he leaves for work until Nov Oct D FINAL 2020 Living MY Happiest Life Ever
