D13 has her birthday soon so I've had to be in touch to discuss that. I think W was nonplussed that D13 wants to have her birthday here at home, and not the other house where W is. I'm not sure she understands how much S15 and D13 are hurting over this situation (and how much they dislike the other place).
It's very possible. Her mindset is so twisted, she doesn't understand why the kids wouldn't want whatever makes her happy.
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Originally Posted by AnotherStander
Just keep up with your DB'ing. Do you know the feeding-the-squirrel analogy?
No, please fill me in!
I'm pretty sure it is in one of those sections you skipped over in Divorce Remedy.
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It's always hard to tell when these oasis breaks end. W never says "By the way, it's all flipped back again." During these times she's always receptive to kisses, so I greet her that way each day to test what her mood is (just leaning in; I'm not lunging at her or seizing her in a passionate embrace or anything). She either meets me the rest of the way, or lets me know she's no longer receptive. As soon as I know that line is back, I don't cross it.
Must be tough molding yourself to fit the mood of your spouse.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
