Her ex is very similar to my ex. I call him bare minimum dad. They are disordered people. He’s kind of young to have all those health issues. Does he have a history as a high functioning addict? They are empty people and don’t seem to love or attach - just keep up appearances. My son is not adopted so I doubt that has anything to do with his a$$holery.
I would have a hard time as a female chasing someone after my BD experience. I don’t think it’s a male/female dynamic. Perhaps you just came to a conclusion that you aren’t dependent on someone? Or maybe the chemistry isn’t 100 percent even though she’s perfect on paper?
I too love your story because it fits with the Hollywood ending. Lying, cheating wife regrets it and f”s up her life and person betrayed realizes he could do much better! Way to go!
