I am really starting to enjoy the in control feeling. I love the Doc but I can take it or leave it. I do and say what I want respectfully with no fear. I was never like that with my XW. The chase is what turned me on with my XW. The funny thing is I have no idea how I got to that place. It just morphed over time in our relationship. With the Doc it is different, she absolutely adores me but I don't chase her, she chases me. The Doc lets me do literally whatever I want, it is something that I have had to learn and get used to. It is a different way of being turned on and she lets me run with it. I love it and it really is a great feeling. She wants to be led.
You know I have been listening to some really great podcasts lately that is putting the finishing touches on everything that I have learned. What you felt for your EW was more attachment then true love. If you truly loved your EW then if walking away would make her truly happy then you would honor her decision. I think that’s very hard for LBS to understand and that’s why there is more suffering. I think as a man if you lead, listen with out judgement and make a woman feel safe and comfortable she will do anything for you. You are one of our great success stories and I am very happy for you. We are all a work in process. Keep it up my virtual brother!
