I agree about MLC being catchy. I think misery loves company. They all had each others hands to hold while they left their wives. Surprisingly, during the first 2 years, my husband abandoned them all (socially only)-(he works with some) and started a whole new group of friends with OW. He just recently has started socializing again with some of them.
He has kept OW a secret from everyone and still is. Even after BD2. He doesn't know who I've told. He hasn't asked me. Because he hasn't really admitted to having a OW. In the BD2 correspondence with me where I included a photo of them together, details of their lavish vacations together and called him a cheater he answers with 'it' isn't productive to discuss'. But hasn't acknowledged she exists. IDK why. It doesn't affect our divorce in our state. It's weird.
I know he wanted to be my friend in the beginning. He told me that after BD1 that I was his BF and he wanted to continue that. I told him I had lots of friends and the only spot open for him was husband. I think he still wants my friendship.
He is lost at knowing how to have a relationship with S2. When he's reached out in the past it was because he wanted to vent about S2, get relationship advice or have me help facilitate his relationship with S2. Even our most recent phone call about the death of our friend-after 6 month gap, he asked my advice in dealing with S2.
I know H most recent act (flowers, wine) was guilt motivated and an act of kindness. I'm taking that. I deserve it and I enjoyed it for a day. My expectations from him are 0. I know there would have to be a lot more from him before I ever had hope he was trying to reconcile.
feminine energy-interesting-I'm googling it as soon as I'm done. I've been doing all the other things. And it feels great.
The OW. aargh. Yep. No one knows what tomorrow will bring. But I am the wife. I have a lot more power than her. I'll let them have each other now-I don't want the man he is today anyway. I'm hoping that his secret being out and Covid19 preventing them from vacationing, wining and dining will cause their fantasy bubble to collapse or at least lose air.
His parents. Yikes. His dad left his mom AT his 40 bday party because he was gay. H was11. Dad totally abandoned physically and financially my H for 5 years until H is16. Dad reunited with H for 2 years, H cares for him and dad dies. H is19. So. I can't compare, really. geez. I'm probably screwed. His mother. Malignant narcissist who counted on an 11 year old to support her emotionally. Than marries an abusive, narcissist man who she knew hated her kids but it was about her needs being met. She hated me because I took H away from her. Her love was conditional. She died when H was 40.
