Honestly, my depression had affected more than just my marriage. Work was a struggle, friendships were put on hold or lost, etc. I'm working on myself to be a better father, friend, boss and yes husband. I absolutely hated living in depression, it was fog that sucked life and time from me. I will not go back to that place of hopelessness. I may struggle, but I will not go to that depth of depression again.
I will work on the detachment, it's hard when we are still living together. After dinner with the kids last night, we cleaned up and I went downstairs to practice guitar. Something I hadn't done in a while, I'm trying to distant myself from her, but it just feels weird to almost ignore her.
I wrote this down to remember it: become the person no fool would want to leave, that and time + consistency + trustworthiness = trust. My mantra to get through this time.
My morning prayer for the past month has been: peace, patience, love, forgiveness - may these things live in this house forever.
H (me): 48 W: 43 M: 23 T: 24 D:21, S:19, S:15 BD 2/2020 Still living together and going to MC