Seperated but holding on for reconciliation

[sandi2]

You are right about the DR book. I did bypass some chapters. But what rules did I throw out? (Not to argue the point, just so I understand what I might have missed.)

I thought you said something about it. Maybe I'm thinking of someone else.

Originally Posted by sandi2
And, you are still skipping around and throwing out the parts you don't like.

What am I skipping around?

It was my understanding that you only read the parts (book chapters, threads, link, etc.) you thought applied to your situation. Now that you see what I mean by "wayward" wife, you may need to read some of those topics you previously shut out.

Oh, I know when she is being disrespectful. My problem was not identifying it, but understanding that it is okay to address it. I thought I had to put up with it for various reasons, e.g. rule 26 - Learn to back off, shut up and walk away when you want to speak out (or scream and yell).

Oh wow, I never thought about someone linking rule 26 to not standing up to disrespect. I've thought several times about revising that list, but then I'd have second thoughts. Anyway, to answer your question, rule 26 is directed for those times the LBS is getting baited into a R talk, argument, or is tempted to try and "reason" with the other spouse. Most LBS's want to solve things by talking about it, but after the bomb drop......talk is not going to be heard.

I'm glad you pointed that out to me.