It's really easy for me to feel like maybe I should just be an every-other-weekend Dad, maybe I'm not good enough or capable, maybe my kids really would be better off.
I realize this is the negativity and internalized shame talking. I can keep living that way, and make myself miserable, or fight through it.
That you're concerned about not being a good enough, but not using that desire for unobtainable perfectionism as an excuse to throw your hands up and not try, indicates you'll probably be a great at it.
Originally Posted by unchien
I can overcome these feelings with effort, I just wish I would learn to "default" to a healthier position from the get-go.
You seem like an analytical guy. You probably can guesstimate how many times you (or I) will need to overcome a default tendency with effort before they become skills we've completely mastered.
