I'm wondering now, if she is going through a MLC. My depression pushed her to this, but as I work on my depression and want to work on the marriage she is not interested.
She has talked about separation, but she won't say divorce. We can't separate right now due to financial reasons, plus COVID.
I leave her notes, telling her I love her or how beautiful she is. They are not mentioned and I'm assuming are thrown away. I'm lost as to what to do.
Welcome! I am sorry that you are here. Don't blame it all on you, you can never know for sure that you were the only problem in her life. My H has depression, and yes.....when we were still together it was mentally draining for me as well. He was the only thing in my life that was bringing me down and I wanted to be around him less and less. But I didn't leave him, I didn't quit.
First of all, keep working on yourself. If you are struggling with depression, then you have to take care of that for YOURSELF first. Give her time and distance to figure her stuff out. Time is on your side, use it wisely.
