Oh gosh Mumin, I read about the sex toy part and I am so sorry that you had to see that. That goes on top of the list of craziest things I've read here so far.
I hope your daughters will be okay. Kids are usually more resilient than we think they are.
Originally Posted by Mumin
Will be hard to not be angry given these 2 recent things so I will need to prepare my "stance" on things.
this sounds like you're ready to fight. If you're going in thinking that it will be hard to not be angry, most likely you will be angry. Be a gray rock. You don't need to fight, just figure out what's best for your daughters.