Thank you all! Really good insight, you guys are amazing, I just want to thank everyone again that takes time to respond on this board.
Well this bills things escalated a bit, then turned into relationship talk. She is still pretty hard on the divorce train, but as of yet has not filed anything or given me any paperwork to sign.
I do believe she has really hired a lawyer though, so she is at least trying to move forward I guess?
I will say she does not seem happy, but she still just says we are not compatible, and we never did have a good relationship, but the examples are always just stuff that happened recently (within the last year of our relationship).
I never brought up the other man, not sure if he is still in the picture or not. She did admit she has a lot of time on her hands now and told me she realized she has to grow up and that she doesn't know how to be an adult because her parents have always just done everything for her.
Anyway, talking to her has of course brought up feelings, and now I'm back to feeling like a certainly do not want a divorce. I guess hearing from her has at least helped in that I feel like I can be patient, and I will not press her anymore. I will just see if she gives me anything to sign or not. We will see.
Steve, I think your thoughts on control are spot on, I did feel like at least if I could control the divorce I could come out of this with some dignity.
