Ginger is correct Kitcat. Men can sense that. As can woman. We actually seem to have a lot in common in terms of how we think and feel. I know I put a lot of my personal identity into someone else. I will always love my wife. But the man she fell in love with was put together, confident, and didn’t care what others thought. Basically the opposite of what I am now. I think for me, and maybe for you the best thing we could do is move on with our lives like our spouses aren’t coming back. Once they realize we are confident and ok, it seems reading though a lot of the success stories anyway, the spouses become intrigued again.
I wish you luck and happiness. Hang in there. Find your happiness without him, whatever that is. If he comes back than great! And if he doesn’t, well you’re still happy. We can only control ourselves. We can’t manipulate or control our spouses into wanting us again.
Me: 40 EX:37 Together 17 years Married 16 years 5 kids, 20,18,15,14,11