Hi, Rosy. I really empathize with your feelings—H is my roommate in lockdown and whereas I was pretty good at not letting his moods get to me before, now I’m finding it harder to not be affected (annoyed, angered, saddened). I think we are all doing our best in an already very challenging situation made more challenging because of the circumstances.
One thing I have tried doing that helps is look at my H as a zoo animal. This sounds wrong, but I see it more from an observation point that I can't have interaction with. When he comes up and grumpy "Hmm that primate is angry. He doesn't understand(listen) to me, so there's no point in saying anything in-depth or meaningful. I will listen to his grumblings if he does them and offer to placate him with words (validation) " I also try to remember that he has an entire life beyond me, and chances are with everyone he's interacted with, the fact that it's me that angered him is slim.
