Just wondering for the veterans around here...as part of my distancing and GALing I haven't been initiating much in terms of everyday conversations either despite us being in the same house (though not spending a ton of time together given schedules). It feels weird not to just chat with someone who's living in the same house, regardless of who that person is and regardless of whether they've decided to sleep in a separate bedroom, but I also don't want to initiate conversations as I do my distancing. I've read through and see that people say that's the right thing to do - part of the counter-intuitive idea I guess - but it just feels weird as a "nice person" not to engage in that way. I recognize that days seem like weeks right now in this pandemic, and that her bomb drop was only two weeks ago, but it feels like it's been an eternity since I've had a normal, in-person conversation with anyone for longer than 2 minutes.
Why is having a normal conversation have to be in-person? Remember the 3 things you should be focused on: GAL, 180s, and detachment.
GAL means you should be reaching out to friend and family. Phone calls, texts, video chats, etc. You should be involving yourself in hobbies and past times. You should be busy every minute of every day. Reading, finding more resources for dealing with a walkaway spouse online. Etc.
I see you mention "it feels weird as a "nice person"". Do you struggle with Nice Guy tendencies? I feel like you should spend some of your free time not pining for an in-person conversation with her, but by looking into things like Nice Guy Syndrome. Do you suffer from it? What does it cause? Etc.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
