I do recall her asking me a while back what I would do if we were to ever split. I can't remember the context, but I told her that I'd be devastated and that I don't think that we could be friends, because seeing her would represent such heartache. Maybe she's testing that, I don't know.
My guess is she knows even today you would come right back as soon as she offered the opportunity.
Originally Posted by SteveS
I do think it's a good thing that she's reminded that I can still make her laugh, and that we have a natural chemistry. The corollary being I don't think it's a positive thing for her to have negative feelings about me, as an example. But I understand and buy the logic that a lot of what's happening right now might be reinforcing the idea to her that we could have a relationship on a friend level.
I know LH can be blunt and I drive him nuts with my NGS/anxious waffling but I vigorously agree with him 100%. I think you need to focus on your detachment and cut these conversations short, even if you have to force yourself and it feels fake. Or just tell yourself it's an experiment.
You aren't going to prove to her that you have chemistry through these interactions. You are likely going to prove to her that you are doing okay (not devastated and heartbroken) and completely okay being in the FZ, leaving her guilt-free to continue as-is. And it will be even harder for you to grow and move towards the detachment you need.
