He moved out a year ago, NC for 8 months and I can't get D because courts are closed. H has not been served. He has no idea that I know about the OW or that I'm divorcing him. I've decided it's in my best interest to let him think he's in control, leading him to believe I'm "nice". Sometimes when the kids tell him I need something (not my doing) he takes care of it. He got upset once about a kid expense (valid) assuming that I'd stiff him. I didn't. I never ask for anything and I rarely complain I just deal. My kids know the score and that's all that matters.
I did file my taxes separately which will put a substantial dent in his finances but thankfully that got extended until July 15th so by the time he connects the dots I'll be ready.
