His telling you, that you need to help out too, sounds like he is finding out just how much it will cost him to leave. He’d have you and D3 to support, a household to maintain, and an accustomed lifestyle to uphold for you. And yeah, for the rest of his life. I’d say he is starting to see just what a mess he’s in.
Of course he wants to blame you. Wants you to find a job. Is accusing you, asking have you even given it any thought. If you had employment, he has more money for his wants and wishes (and her’s - yuck).
And by the way, I know you are looking for employment and not without job to make him have to pay more. Although from his irrational perspective I suspect his got a some story built up.
Stay the course. Focus on you and D3. Let him spin and do whatever heavy lifting he has to do. You’ve spoken to a lawyer and know where you stand - make no agreements without discussions with a L. MLCers are masters of manipulation and can weave quite a web of woe.
Stay detached. Stay businesslike.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
