I know it's too late to comment on the question about Easter, but there will be other things coming up.

This is why there needs to be a designated schedule of who has the kids. This is assuming there will be no scheduling for shared "happy family" activities. Has there not been any discussion about future holidays, vacations, etc.? You know I stand on tough love, believing she needs a taste of how things will be, if she continues on this route. That includes birthdays and other special events, holidays, family traditions, etc. Living under the same roof can get complicated, b/c she is going to take a big chunk of cake wherever she can. Physically living in separate homes may not be easy, at first. An agreement (or court ordered) schedule needs to be set in place, to cover the rest of the year. Some couples are able to swap out occasionally, and some can't. It doesn't seem a good idea, to me, to wait until almost time to celebrate before approaching the subject.

So, how did Easter go for you?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!