I told her that if she leaves, don’t bother coming back. I told her she’s not going anywhere alone. I was looking up what to say, then I told her she needed to make the call.
It's great you set that boundary, and it's also great you let her call the police for her own restraining order. Do be cautious about the difference between being assertive and protective--and being controlling. E.g. "I don't want you going anywhere alone" vs "You're not going anywhere alone", or "A restraining order is a good idea but you would need to make that call" vs "You need to make that call." You're definitely doing more right than wrong. I love that she solved the problems herself and in doing so took some level of responsibility.
Originally Posted by Curtis
She told me he has a history of pursuing married woman. I told her they are easy targets to victimize and she agreed.
I'd be cautious--this shifts responsibility away from her. My partner left me, but she did not cheat on me. Similarly I left my ex-wife, but I did not cheat on her. It's not coincidental that neither of us had drinks alone at the home of a member of the opposite sex while our relationship was at a low point. Being married hardly offers a golden aegis of protection, but neither does it indicate "Victim" or "Open to suitors."
