Persistent Endurance (Part 8)

[curtis7]

Major development last night. I was sitting with W on the pool deck playing a game with the kids. A truck pulled into the driveway, S9 ran out to tell us. As I went to the window I saw a truck backing out, revving their engine, then burning rubber as they sped off. My W received a text and had a look of fear on her face. I asked her who was that? She said that was the moral dilemma I was working on telling you about. It was OM3.

She told me she tried breaking it off with him for good last Saturday. Apparently he’s been trying to contact her relentlessly since then. She had met with her psychology friend to understand how to end it. She thought she could let him down softly and get closure. The psychologist told her that firm no contact and stating as such repeatedly in no uncertain terms was needed with someone with his personality and attachment. I then showed her the texts I’ve been receiving as I thought they were related.

OM3 started calling and texting her and wanted her to meet him at her separation house. I told her that if she leaves, don’t bother coming back. I then asked if he was armed and she said yes. I told her she’s not going anywhere alone. She was on the phone with him for about 10 minutes fumbling through an ill-prepared no contact speech. I could tell he was trying to reason with her and she wasn’t firm enough. Eventually she started repeating it was over and hung up. Calls and texts continued until she blocked his number. Then, I started receiving texts on my phone from the anonymous number confirming it was OM3. First text said “Curtis you’re her puppet, we all are.” He then started sending illicit pictures of the two of them together. I didn’t open as I don’t need the mind movies. He tried calling and left a voicemail. I deleted without listening. Wasn’t going to give him power over me, so I blocked his number.

I asked W if she wanted to call the police as I felt there was a threat of danger and so did her girlfriends that she notified. She asked if I could call. I was looking up what to say, then I told her she needed to make the call. This is something she needed to do on her own. She made the call and filed the report. They said an injunction for a temporary restraining order could be filed against him at the courthouse the next day.

I listened for a couple hours where she was trying to piece together how she could allow it to get to this point. She told me if I wanted the divorce, she would understand and I could have it. I replied I don’t want to think about that right now. I just continued to listen and she said how sorry she was for getting us into this situation. W said he called her 50 times one day earlier this week and that he asked her to marry him a few days ago.

This morning W called her boss and HR to notify them that OM3 may try to contact her work. She also called her dad and informed him what happened and that she was having an affair. She made these calls without my recommendation.

In the past couple hours, OM3 has started texting me from another anonymous number. The messages gave explicit details on their sexual relationship and her lies to him and me. He also sent a video that I refused to download and watch.

I have not responded. Would everyone agree that the best response is no response?

OM3 appears to be extremely devastated and is lashing out for any form of revenge. Perhaps he’s trying to get me to throw her out in hopes she’ll come crawling back. I think he is panicking and looking for any way to regain control over her. She told me he has a history of pursuing married woman. I told her they are easy targets to victimize and she agreed. W said that when our kids were exposed to this last night and were scared, she knew it had to be ended for once and for all.

Would this be considered rock bottom?

How do we get this monster out of our lives?