Not quitting to me is not quitting to continue working on myself. Not standing for M forever. Sometimes it is okay to quit when you know you've hit a dead end!
This is the exact space in which I keep trying to tell other newbies they need to be before they are truly ready to start throwing around S/D in their conversations. Actual detachment. Just far enough away to take a step back and see things as they really are. No ugly crying. No rage. Just a simple plan to move forward without a ton of doubts and fear. You are so, so strong, and handling things so well right now I hope you know I'm thinking about you all the time xoxoxo
