I don't know how to act. I'm so confused and scared of doing the wrong thing. I know not to bring up marriage talk, I know not to pursue, but I'm also supposed to 180 and one of his complaints was that I never initiated physical affection. Am I supposed to do casual touches now? Or is that pursuing? I really need the advice of a veteran here.
If you are confused, it means your H has not fully come around yet. vets often say, if the WAS is ready to come back, you will know. If they're not, you will be confused.
It sounds like you still need to work on your detachment. Let go of the fear of doing the wrong thing. This is not the time to initiate physical affection because he already wants out. I think doing 180 is more about other things you can work on yourself.....such as if you felt like you haven't done anything for yourself and was codependent in the M, do a 180 on that!!
