I do not know if wordsmiths things makes a difference. Which ever one you like more, pick that one.
My believe is less words the more the impact. Say things from the heart in person rather than in writing. Do not do things that make you look weak. This is unattractive and turns women off.
Have the lawyer deal with the legal aspect of D. No emotional stuff. Get the pie cut in half as cheap as possible.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712