Happy Easter, Grace! We get to say it for 50 days! Yay!
I read on another post (not here) something that has been helping me. As we just experienced Jesus rising, I feel especially close to our brother... The poster said, "Jesus was in love with you before you were formed."
And I cried. Even now I tear up. I had been missing that feeling of my H being "in love" with me. But knowing that Jesus has been in love with me and will be forever... well that just trumps all, doesn't it?
So whatever happens with your H, you are already so very well loved. Now, we must love ourselves the same. To be in love with ourselves. To see ourselves when we look in the mirror. Not just our face, hair, etc... but when we gaze into our own eyes and see the love that God has for us shining back... well wow, then we know we are all.
I hope for you, as you continue to build your life, trust God, and allow for things to unfold as it should, we will be the love for ourselves that we had longed for from our spouses...
And in doing so, our kids will learn the deep well of love that exists for them in themselves and through us. We can be Jesus' conduit. If we so choose... without strings, without expectations... and we can do this not just for ourselves, our kids, and our families... but eventually and fully for our spouses as well. And as we do, it won't matter what they decide. The love exists whether they are in our lives or not.
Now it's just a matter of me believing this myself and maintaining zero expectations where my H is concerned. Have a blessed rest of your week, Grace!
W (me): 50 H: 46 M: 21 T: 25 S:17 D:15 BD 11/2019
Fate whispers to the warrior, "You can not withstand the storm" And the warrior whispers back, "I am the storm." ~Unknown