@ DejaVu6 - Thank you for the straight talk. I really needed to hear it. I thought I was working on myself because I'm going to IC, but you're right, I'm constantly thinking about him. I check the cell phone records at least 3 times a day, and I haven't really attempted to GAL. I guess I'm in denial about what has happened and don't want to believe that he no longer loves me. I keep telling myself there's no way after 24 years he could just stop loving me and deep down he must feel something. I continue to hope this is a phase and he will eventually come to his senses.
I am making myself his plan B. I don't want to be plan B. I WANT TO BE #1. I don't want to be his back-up plan.
I have to face this and let him go. Thank you for your advice and support. It really helps to hear from someone who has had a similar experience. My friends and family try to be supportive, but they can't relate to how I feel because they've never experienced this type of betrayal and hurt. ((Hugs))
Me: 47 H: 45 T: 24 M:23 D23 BD #1 12/19: ILYBNILWY BD #2 2/20: I discovered H was having an affair with OW. (OW is 21 and lives in another country) Current R status: Separated.
